Today’s card comes from The Romance Angels Oracle Cards.
Codependency ~ Addictions are affecting your romantic life.
Pictured on this card is a woman sitting outside with either the sunrise or sunset. She isn’t enjoying it though, she has a look of worry on her face. She has an open box beside her and a shield at her feet. She isn’t looking at those either. There is a shadow cast on her heart area. Codependency can mean many things. Do you feel you need another person to be happy? Do you feel your own happiness depends on others happiness? Denial can be a part of codependency. We deny ourselves happiness and self-care and put others feelings and care before our own. Sometimes tending to others needs can be a way to not have to look at what we need to be working on for ourselves. Sometimes we blame others for our own unhappiness. Sometimes we try to control situations we really have no control over instead of allowing them to unfold. We wear masks to make us appear everything is well on the surface. We are also seeing there may be dependency to a substance, substances, or activity. You may feel affected by another’s dependency to a substance, substances, or activity. Many can feel like victims. All of these are old ways to cope. We are given an opportunity at this time to let go of the old survival mode. The woman on the card has a shadow across her heart she isn’t paying attention to. We have been given the advice since the spring that it’s time to do our shadow work. Yesterday, I read an article with a good idea on how to do shadow work. I shared it in the facebook group but I’m going to share it here, too. https://vabtarotoracle.wordpress.com/2017/11/21/my-shadow-work-topics-and-areas-list/ You don’t have to do it alone, however. There are many different groups and people who can help with addictions and codependency issues. Remember she has an open box beside her – be open, declutter what you have stored there, so you can gather new things. The box reminded me of the Treasure Chest. She also has a shield. We are protected. We have the means to protect ourselves in new ways and we can let go of the old ways of coping which no longer serve. The sun is setting on the old and the sun is rising for the new coming in.
Thanks for reading, have an awesome weekend!